Baby Sleep Book (Sears Parenting Library) by William Sears

Baby Sleep Book (Sears Parenting Library) Reviews

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  Rachel

  Where Babywise is on one end of the spectrum, this one is on the complete opposite. We didn't have great success with getting Charlie to sleep through the night, so I have been reading lots of books to get good ideas for Felicity, so I picked up this book. I am not a Babywise kind of person; it just wouldn't work for me. This one is a little closer to my style, but I am not extreme in this direction either, same as with Babywise. It was a little bit long because it basically said one thing: co-sleep until they are teens (ish), nurse until the kid is in kindergarten (practically), and hold your baby all day long. While I think some of these ideas are great in moderation (I bring baby into bed with me most nights, I nurse, and I hold her as much as possible) it just wasn't practical for me. However, I did like having a book that supported me in my decision to not let my baby cry it out all the time or schedule, because sometimes I feel like the only person I know who isn't "Babywise." Had some good tips and ideas, but I am just not taking it to the extreme.
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  Megan Norquest

  While there is some good advice in this book, it’s better left to those who have decided to participate exclusively in the “attachment parenting” fad. Otherwise it would be called “The How to Scare the Shit Out of You in Your Last Month of Pregnancy Book.” If you aren’t a co-sleeping, breastfeeding, wear your baby, anti-cry it out parent (yes, all 4) then I would find a different book.
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  Stacy

  Begin rant now: I am so sick of the parenting book roller coaster. I am not really sure why I keep reading them. You are either spoiling your child if you ever think of picking him up or, as in this book, you get a big fat F in parenting of your child ever utters one tiny sob. Ever hear of moderation people?
  Anyhow, these authors are strong advocates of attachment parenting I am not. I suppose I need not say more.
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  Meg

  If you’re into it you’re into it what can I say
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  دعاء الدريس

  كتاب نوم الطفل من وجهة نظر التربية بالارتباط
  attachment parenting
  
  شرحت الكتاب في حلقات على اليوتيوب بعنوان
  "نوم الطفل من وجهة نظر الفطرة والحب"
  بقناتي Duaa AlDrees
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  Skye Staker

  I am SO happy that I read this book. I absolutely loved it and found it so extremely helpful! I started off my baby sleep studying by reading Babywise. While I know that Babywise is loved by so many and I actually did learn some helpful tips and some things that I did agree with—I didn’t quite click with the program and it just didn’t feel quite right with me. Then enter, the Baby Sleep Book! I had a completely different feeling while reading this book and it totally just clicked with me. While reading it I just kept thinking, “Yes! Exactly!” Dr. Spears just totally put into words all the feelings in my heart, and gave advice on how to help babies sleep that really resounded with me.
  
  Rather than giving a one size fits all program, Dr. Spears gives many many tips and ideas to not only help your child get good sleep, but to establish wonderful routines for sleep times that help the baby feel secure, safe, comfortable, and happy. He helps the reader understand that babies who feel safe and loved during bedtime routines, are likely to get better sleep in so many ways. Rather than placing your child in a crib and walking away to let them cry it out which can result in a stressed out, anxious, and scared baby—this book encourages “nighttime parenting”, helping the parent understand that baby does better when parents are there to help and love the child to sleep and establish good routines (NOT rigid schedules) during the day that helps the baby get a better nights sleep.
  
  However, even though the authors do NOT support the cry it out method, they truly believe that it is parents who know what is best for their children in their particular circumstances. Because of this, they still do go over this option in the book to give perhaps a better and more helpful way to look at this method—IF the parents are going to try this method. (Although they still don’t recommend it.) The authors are truly so nonjudgmental and I just loved that they want parents to have lots of information to help them make the best decision for their baby and circumstance.
  
  This book really comes from a loving place. And I could feel it while I read it. It helps parents remember what a blessing it is to have children and to get to spend this time with them having wonderful bedtime routines. It is such s limited time that we get with them while they are so young. I feel even more so now that nursing and rocking my little one to sleep is such a blessing. A time will come where she doesn’t need those things anymore and I want to enjoy these opportunities while I have them.
  
  The book also encourages parents to put themselves in their child’s shoes to understand the child’s feelings. The question from the book that I loved and will continue to ask myself is, “if I were my baby, how would I feel in ________ circumstance.” Understanding that sleep time can be stressful and even scary for an infant or child helps the parent understand what things they should implement during these times to help the child feel safe and happy.
  
  Truly, this book will be one that I go back and read again and again for sleep advice throughout the next few years! Thank you thank you Dr. Spears!
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  Erica

  Written by the attachment parenting gurus, this book discusses sleep education for babies, toddlers, and young children.
  
  The good: Although there is a distinct attachment parenting slant to this book, including a chapter devoted to cosleeping and another criticizing CIO (cry it out), its advice is inclusive of a range of a parenting styles and situations. The authors provide pointers for determining the sleep arrangement and techniques that will work best for your family, and a number of techniques and case studies show how their ideas can be put into action. I found ideas to implement right now with my infant as well as possibilities to keep in mind for the future. The most valuable takeaway, though, was in their broader attitude toward "nighttime parenting".
  
  The bad: The book becomes repetitive if you read it through; clearly it's meant as more of a reference. In addition, it's not always clear which of their assertions are backed up by research and which are their (informed, but anecdotal) opinions.
  
  The verdict: If you're looking for a way to get your baby sleeping through the night ASAP, this isn't it. This doesn't even purport to be it. But if you're looking for help on formulating a long-term approach to sleep and you're not offended by the assumption that you'll be breastfeeding well into toddlerhood, this is a valuable resource.
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  Tina

  The problem with this book is he basically advocates co-sleeping (sleeping with the baby in your bed) for as long as possible. And then he tells these stories about his own kids sleeping in his bed till 4 years old. Ugh. Actually I think his wife recounts a story about sneaking off to the closet to have sex. No thank you!
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  Marie

  If you are interested in attachment parenting/co-sleeping with your child - this book is a wonderfully helpful resource throughout the process -- from start to finish. I really enjoyed the practical advice & the stories of the Sears's family throughout the book. If you are looking for sleep training or getting your baby to sleep through the night @ 2 weeks -- this isn't the book for you.
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  Emy

  Good. I get overwhelmed with too many ideas and too many approaches. Sears is not saying you have to do it ONE way which I appreciate, but on the other hand, can't someone just tell me what to do?
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  Katie Marquette

  So our four month old baby is not a great sleeper - but not a bad one either. She's a pretty easy-going baby and thanks to our cosleeping arrangement she actually almost never wakes up during the night (though she has 2-3 dream feeds or will reach out for me in her sleep). She's currently protesting naps and is pretty dependent on her #1 sleep association (ME) for decent sleep - which I have mixed feelings about. My Mom coslept with me and my sister a bit too long, I think, because I have distinct memories of how difficult it was to sleep in my own bed. Now my Mom also worked all day, everyday, so nighttime was important for her to connect with us as babies and toddlers - I get that. I, however, am with my baby literally all day, and currently, also all night. Eventually this won't be healthy for either of us and I'd rather give her some independent sleep tools sooner rather than later. DON'T read this book hoping to find tools for independent sleep.
  
  The Sears family motto is "deal with it, Mom!" Just kidding, but sort of. I'm pretty much on board with attachment style parenting, love breastfeeding, and am in general pretty relaxed about these things but Dr. Sears solutions seem to almost always involve a martyred mother. While he does acknowledge the mental health of mothers he also adds a bit of guilt ("waking frequently and sleeping with you IS best for the baby, but if you can't handle it we can adjust..."). He also doesn't really acknowledge that most sleep-training these days is not the old "cry it out" (thank GOD) - but more nuanced. What I do love is the emphasis on parental instincts - how would you parent on a desert island? I pretty much already naturally do most attachment style parenting things - I DO think it is natural, but I also don't think you'll ruin your baby for life if you decide you need them to sleep in a crib when they're six months old... (the stories about the father who sat with his son EVERY NIGHT for 7 years did not warm my heart but made me a little disturbed at the lengths expected - I also didn't think it sounded very healthy for the child being so reliant on their parent at that age...). So I took this book with a grain of salt.
  
  My husband also noted the pedantic style, but that's true of most parenting books I think (he was referring especially to the "night time fathering tips" chapter which I agree was particularly pedantic towards men). I also didn't really need to hear the details of the Sears couple's sex life (they like walk in closets for the record). SO, take what you will from this, but don't be terrified you'll ruin your child for life if you need to establish a bit more structure around sleep. I don't really know what our baby's sleep will look like in a year, much less a month from now. I pretty much take it as we go. And one great piece of Sears advice: "do it until it doesn't work. then change it!"
  
  **maybe someday I'll read a non-parenting book again**
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  bibliophagy

  this book is full of the tales of husbands and wives, mommies and daddies. it is written for the straight, cis, wealthy stay-at-home-mom/working-dad combo who have the ability to breast feed. if those terms and assumptions are too distracting for you, dont even give this book a try bc they are used CONSTANTLY.
  
  this is my first introduction to learning about baby sleeping, and (except for the cisheteronormative terms and class assumptions made throughout the text) i learned a lot! i enjoyed the authors' stances that each child and family is different and therefore has different needs. there is no one answer to baby sleep. instead, it takes regular loving experiments to figure out what will work best for each child at various stages of development. the book is full of helpful guidelines and recommendations for experiments to try.
  
  despite it all, i will want to have this one on the shelf to refer back to regularly if a baby comes into my life.
  
  would put it at 4 stars because i loved these ideas and this approach. knocking down to 3 stars though for such limited and inaccessible language.
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  Cherie

  Some good advice, but I found William Sears and co profoundly unpractical at times. Stop saying 5,000 times to get a king sized bed. Some people don't have space (and can't afford to move someplace with bigger space) or can't afford a new bed - what can they do? Still, I appreciate an AP sleep guide in a world where people think cry it out is a good message (WTF?!?!?!?!? How can you love your child and do that, esp with the harsh realities that research has shown that it is an effed up message.). Good tips for co-sleeping.
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  Burcu Dolunay

  I could not apply CIO and any versions of it (like kim west) on any of my daughters. This was the only book with really alternative reco.s but not a slightly different application of cio. And i liked the flexibility they offer rather than dictating one solution as well as their trust and emphasis on parent gut. I would give it five stars if there was not that chaptwr which wildly attacks cio methods. Did not like how their blaming attitude on cio applying parents there.
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  Viviana

  This book was a very practical guide to sleep for infants and parents of infants. Great suggestions are presented clearly and backed up by medical research and years of experience with patients - and the lead authors raised 8 children too!
  Disclaimer: Dr Sears’ family promotes attachment parenting and co-sleep. If you are uncomfortable with this parenting style, it is not the book for you.
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  Amber Launstein

  Lots of great tips on sleeping. I really appreciate their approach on NOT letting baby cry it out. We used that with Cambri and while it worked, I don’t think it was fun for either of us. They share some sound, science based advice and help to troubleshoot any problems. I wouldn’t say a must read, but definitely full of great tips for those looking for it!
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  Book Hoarder

  Some interesting ideas and good information but heavily into the attachment parenting philosophy. While some of this resonates with me, I wanted solutions to having to wear my baby while he sleeps or strategies for minimizing night waking, rather than being told this was part of having a good relationship with my child.
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  Naomi Horst

  I realized we don't have a sleep problem...
  
  I just had an attitude problem. A really helpful book in assessing where we are at with sleep, why, and gentle ways we can make improvements.
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  Rose Lindgren

  Very helpful book for attachment parenting. Really helped dispel myths around co sleeping and made me feel more confident in my choice not to sleep train while giving me lots of options for improving sleep
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  JoAnna

  This book is mostly about co-sleeping. There is a whole chapter about how “cry it out” is bad, but does not detail alternative strategies for teaching babies to sleep independently. Very unhelpful for readers who are looking for real sleep training advice.
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  Erin

  Too much trying to please everyone without offering any practical solutions. Wasn't especially helpful.
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  Mia Sajbel

  It was alright... this book didn't address some of the unique stuff we had going on, but it had some decent tips.
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  Erika Rose

  Clearly advocates co-sleeping and other unsafe sleeping practices not approved by doctors. Some seemingly good advice but not useful in its theories.
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  Barbara

  This book is for the co-sleeping, attachment parenting family who doesn't subscribe to the "cry it out" method of baby sleep training. I find myself mostly in this camp when it comes to my "parenting style" (if one be a part of a universal style, which is silly because every parent and child is so unique). I read Sears's Vaccine Book which was excellent. The tone in this book bothered me a little, though. The examples the author used made me feel that he thinks CIO is wrong and those who do it only do it because they are at their wits' end. I personally don't think that is why most parents choose CIO. Take those few passages with a grain of salt. [If you are looking for a non-CIO sleep book, I recommend The No Cry Sleep Solution over this book).
  
  He does, however, have some excellent tips on Nighttime Parenting (as he calls it) with heavy emphasis on what fathers can do to soothe their breastfed babies. This section was helpful for me because my baby goes to sleep and is soothed by breastfeeding and having tips to include my partner helped us a lot! He has good advice about specific things dads can do to help get their babies to sleep.
  
  I recommend reading it before you have your baby or while your baby is still quite young- implementing his tips with an older baby is more difficult.