| Title | : | No More Excuses: Dismantling Rape Culture |
| Author | : | |
| Rating | : | |
| ISBN | : | 1541543955 |
| ISBN-10 | : | 9781541543959 |
| Format Type | : | ebook |
| Number of Pages | : | 148 |
| Publication | : | First published January 1, 2019 |
-- "Journal"
No More Excuses: Dismantling Rape Culture Reviews
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No More Excuses examines rape culture - how we define it, how we perpetrate it and how we allow it to exist in today's society. Thought-provoking and well researched, it's a great 'gateway' book into the topic area, and although I would say it doesn't offer anything particularly new to the subject area, it does make the topic more accessible and offers good starting points for discussion.
This is clearly targeted at a younger audience, as the writing feels a little juvenile sometimes, with direct references to middle and high school students and their opinions, but I still think this is a valuable book to read. -
I read this because I was trying to understand the world. My world against reality. That’s the real reason why I picked this book up without a second thought, in the teen section at my library.
First of all, I am a teen. It was hard at times to read through this book and understand it to its full potential. But regardless, I knew I wanted and needed to read this. Here are my thoughts.
I grew up in a quiet environment. When I first learned about rape, I heard that while rape is a crime, it is also the victim’s fault; and that is why we females have to be low-key as possible
I knew somewhere in the back of my mind that I did not agree with this, but I also didn’t know how to express my opinion on it or ask questions which made it confusing for me.
This book did a great job at clarifying rape culture.
The most important thing I learned was “rape myths” and the main reasons why rape happens.
It talked about a little bit of everything concerning rape. From feminism to equality and race.
There were a lot of statistics, and stories throughout the book that helped me understand this and put it into words. It explained each step leading towards sexual assault, the reasonings behind it and included studies for different areas. It also gave me answers as to why people don’t take rape seriously.
I don’t know if it makes me a bad person to have to understand everything from every angle, but I appreciated the reasonings because it gave me assurance.
This book explored the topic from different angles. The thing I appreciated most was that it urged you to take action, gave you advice and solutions. I feel that with topics like this, it’s important to know that you’re not alone, but I haven’t really heard anything about the healing process or ways that you can prevent sexual harassment in society, besides go low-key. So I really appreciated what it did.
As someone who’s young and still learning about the rape culture, this book helped me see the line drawn between what I believed (everything in this book) and what society has been telling me. It also gave me new views into this topic.
Like I mentioned before, I’m a teen. I don’t know if it makes it okay for me to write this review because I’m not “adult” enough to know anything yet. But what I do know is that this book helped me broaden my understanding by a good amount and that it was informative.
From my view, this book did a great job at dismantling rape and informing people the different aspects of sexual assault. I think this is a great start if you have questions about this topic, like me and want to understand more. -
I love this book. It takes a deep look at the current "Rape Culture" and shows every angle of the inequality of women in the American society. In one page, it shows that more than a third of Americans believe that between 50-95% of rape accusations are false. Yet in another research done my David Lisak, the actual rate of false accusations is under 8%. This is why rape victims don't want to come forward. For ever single person that is traumatized by this, it take so much courage to step forward and tell your story. People are afraid that they'll be the ones villainized. The book talks about rape and twisted societal beliefs that everyone faces. It even mentions the higher likelihood for rape of transgender women or women of color. It even goes deeper into saying things such as "party" rape, going on into many scenarios in which these events could happen. Overall, I think that this story does a really good job of bringing into light "Rape Culture" and how it can start at a very young age.
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"American's say that rape is as bad as murder, and yet only 3 per cent of rapists will serve time. American's say that rapists are evil people, and yet in case after case, people step forward to blame the victims."
'No More Excuses' should be classified as one of the essential books that everyone should read. It is incredibly thought-provoking, with some shocking statistics.
It uses the story of a 16-year-old girl being sexually assaulted in the back of a car by her ex and his friends after passing out due to having too much alcohol, as an example of rape being talked about in the media. It details how the young girl was accused of trying to ruin these boy's reputation, despite being sexually assaulted by them; something that is all too often seen and it shouldn't be.
It goes onto to talk about the popularity of Netflix Original '13 Reasons Why' and the shocking sexual abuse in Hollywood by Harvey Weinstein, provoking outrage, and subsequently, the #MeToo movement in America - this book contains real tweets from rape survivors. It also details how Pop Culture glorifies sexually aggressive behaviour as romantic gestures.
4 stars, incredibly well written. -
It was quite triggering; I couldn’t finish the book in one sitting. My heart would race and I felt like throwing my Kindle across the room sometimes.
What I liked:
More than other books I’ve read on rape culture, it really holds women accountable for dismissing other women. (Girls and women are often just as likely as men to blame female victims. Why wouldn’t women empathize with other women?) I always felt this issue was not addressed enough, maybe because people are afraid of directing the heat away from the rapists, the main criminal and perpetrator. Regardless, this is a pervasive problem. And I really appreciated that it explained the reason: people blame victims so that they can continue to feel safe themselves. Blaming the victim by identifying with the aggressor allowed the girls to distance themselves from her, thereby creating a false sense of security. Victim blaming comes from a common but false way of thinking called the just-world hypothesis.
This book wasn’t just a call to action, and it didn’t just go on and on about the problems, but offered up solutions that could be implemented at all levels.
It summarizes everything with examples, including current events and pop culture references (in the author’s own words, “it is a snapshot of twenty-first-century American beliefs about sexual violence”). It feels relevant and modern enough for people to relate to, and the convenient summary to all recent events in the past few years is helpful for those that don’t religiously follow the news and movements.
Focus on language—less victim blaming when you hear the perpetrator as the subject. (She was raped by him vs he raped her, violence against women is a problem vs men who commit violent crimes against women are the problem.)
I laughed when John Mulaney’s joke about rape showed up in the book. It’s true. The butt of an excellent joke should be the person with power in the situation.
Highlights 📝
…if you’re arguing the point “now men can’t flirt anymore,” you don’t understand what flirting is or you’re just pretending not to in order to set up [an] argument in favor of sexual harassment.
Resist the impulse to dispute or dismiss their stories of harassment and misogyny.
“We need more men with the guts, with the courage, with the strength, with the moral integrity to break our complicit silence and challenge each other and stand with women and not against them.”
The belief that men can’t be expected to control their sexual urges. The belief that women are responsible for keeping horny men at bay.
She was asking for it. She must be lying. What were you wearing? Why did you go to that party? Were you flirting? Are you sexually active? Had you had sex with him before? Did you try to fight him off?
Put the focus in the right place. Describing a victim’s clothes, past sexual history, and behaviors (such as drinking) around the time of the assault blames the victim for the crime that occurred. The burden of responsibility for a sex crime should always fall on the perpetrator.
“Boys learn at a young age, from pop culture, their elders, and their peers, that it’s normal to have to convince a woman to have sex, and that repeated small violations of her boundaries are an acceptable way to do so—perhaps even the only way.”
Use accurate language. Words matter. Rape is not having sex or making love. It is an act of sexual violence. Survivors don’t seduce their assailants; they are assaulted.
When an attack doesn’t follow the “stranger danger” model, people are baffled. Ideally, the victim has physical injuries. Ideally, the suspect looks like a criminal. In other words, the prosecutor wants a “perfect” victim, a deviant rapist, and a brutal assault. This is the most winnable case. But most rapes don’t fit these criteria. Why not? The suspect may be the victim’s husband, a well-respected member of the community, or a police officer. The victim may be a sex worker, a drug addict, or a transgender person of color.
He’s a nice guy. She must be lying. In reality, Nassar sexually assaulted hundreds of girls. Over and over again, these survivors pointed out that Nassar’s reputation as a skilled doctor and a nice guy were used to shield him at their expense. Some parents were in the examination room when Nassar assaulted their daughters. He inserted his fingers into their vaginas and anuses during what were supposed to be routine medical treatments.
If the sexuality being sold by the media is one that subjugates [dominates] women and pushes willing objectification off as sexual ownership, then when we buy into and mirror it, are we really experiencing liberation?”
I was blamed for it. I was told not to talk about it. I was told that it wasn’t that bad. I was told to get over it.
In the 1990s, members of the sex crimes unit of the police department in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania—the officers and detectives who investigate sexual assault and rape—nicknamed their division the “lying bitch unit.” Another officer, in the sex crimes unit of the police department in Baltimore, Maryland, said, “In homicide, there are real victims; all our [rape] cases are bullshit.”
Some criticisms:
I can’t say I learned much, but maybe that’s because this is not my first book.
The book structure was disorganized, I worry people might find it hard to follow. It felt like the author wrote and cited everything she wanted to talk about and only tried to rearrange it into chapters later.
It was a bit jarring when some words had explanations/definitions accompanying them. It seems the book targets at an audience younger than me. I know this should be a positive point, it’s just personal preference.
It was really focused on America—the statistics, the law system, the cases and headlines… that I felt a bit isolated. I would really love to read a book on rape culture that addresses more conservative countries.
Despite my criticisms, I appreciate any author for doing their part in dismantling rape culture. Though I hate that books like these need to exist in the first place.
As usual, my worry is that the book is not being read by those who need to read it. -
Well rounded and practical book about rape culture.
I don’t know why I read this, but I do know that more people really need to read this. -
Must read for all!
Compilation of notes:
And I understand why many women who this happens to let it go. Who’s going 2 believe you? (few) What r the repercussions? (many) Do u want 2 work again? (Yes) R you prepared 2b ostracized? (No)."
"Pretending a problem doesn’t exist won’t lead to solutions."
Californian law states that:
An extremely drunk person can’t give consent.
An unconscious person can’t give consent.
A sleeping person can’t give consent.
Another key part of the California law is that a person can change their mind in the middle of sex.
[Consent] is not a black and white contract, it is grey in colour." -
WHEW! All right, that's done. I didn't really learn anything new with this book, personally. But do I think that younger readers will end up thinking a bit more thoroughly about rape culture after reading this book for themselves? Yes.
I don't really want to touch too much on this book since it's general for me (although it will cause much younger readers to think critically about society) and this book covered areas I already know about with greater depth than displayed here. But I will definitely comment on a few quotes from this book.
"Broadly speaking, femininity refers to the characteristics and dress codes that people in a particular time and place give to women. These may include a nurturing personality, physical softness, submissive behavior, wearing dresses and high heels, and a preference for focusing on relationships." (p. 32, emphasis by me).
CAN. I. JUST. SAY. THIS. IS. SO. ACCURATE??
Lemme tell all women reading this something: You do NOT need a relationship!! I don't know how much I need to emphasize this. SO many women see relationships as so important and needed to complete themselves when it's not true. If you want a relationship, that's fine, but you do NOT need one. This is a problem I find with femininity and it just feels so obsessive to feel like a woman needs a relationship, and it's possessive of men to comply with that and make women feel like they need men in order to survive.
Also, as an additional side comment, depending on the culture you're from, softness may not even be what men expect of you. For example, as a Hispanic/Latinx woman, I'm expected to be an exotic, aggressive woman who cannot possibly turn down any man because I'm always expected to say "yes." Even when I say "no," I mean "yes." Which is a horrible bunch of stereotypes (obviously), so this is something to consider when addressing ideas of femininity. Stereotypes like these are some things young readers can research more into to find out how deep rape culture infiltrates society.
Next quote, I gotta give a little context first. So Larry Nassar is the man (a doctor who was supposedly "treating his patients") who raped, molested, and harassed young athletes and had over 100 people reporting him for his aggressive, violent behavior. He had to listen to multiple testimonies during the trial. This is what the quote says:
"In a weeklong session of agonizing stories, more than 150 women read their impact statements. When Nassar protested that it was too painful for him to listen to the young women, Judge Aquilina told him, 'You may find it harsh that you are here listening but nothing is as harsh as what your victims endured for thousands of hours at your hands, collectively. You spent thousands of hours perpetrating criminal sexual conduct on minors.... Spending four or five hours listening to them is significantly minor considering the hours of pleasure you had at their expense and ruining their lives.'" (p. 93-94).
WOW. That is POWERFUL. Take notes, everyone. This is how you defend survivors of these horrific crimes.
Now the last comment I want to make is on Chapter 7. At the end of Chapter 7, the author says we need a program that speaks about not so much consensual sex as it is about both healthy relationships and healthy sex. I found out about a program that seems to address healthy sex, healthy relationships, and the right to choose whether you want to have sex or be abstinent. I can't remember the name of the program anymore, but I heard about it in The Real talk show. If I find the name again, I'll share. It's age appropriate and addresses important questions kids may have about sexuality and consent. -
Though I didn’t learn much new information, there were a few thought-provoking statistics. I didn’t appreciate that it seemed written with partisan lines and the big bad conservatives harming women while the knight in shining armor liberals want to stop rape. I think most reasonable politicians on both sides agree and support a position of protection and empowerment for women’s safety and well-being.
I read it with different eyes than I might previously had, as I raise my 3 year old little lady and 1 year old little gentleman. I can now start thinking of ways I can encourage my kids away from the rape culture behaviors including preventing them from watching some unsavory shows on various media outlets that glorify this culture. The young years are incredibly formative and if I can teach them respect, kindness and care for ALL people, i will consider it a beginning step in the right direction.
Thanks for the read! -
Please note this is a 2.5.
A very rudimentary introduction to rape culture and intersectional feminism, this book is somewhat helpful, but leaves a lot out, and in a lot of cases speaks down to the audience. Some explanations are given half-heartedly- when you handle a topic so heavy as rape culture, perhaps the full context of the matters you're discussing are more vital than this book provides for. This is just so basic, and not in a 'ground up' way, just in that it's perhaps too simple for many, many people. I'm unsure of who the target audience was here, but I really can't work out who they are anyway. -
5 stars
This is an amazing book that discusses rape, rape culture, and how it is deeply rooted in our society. It can be uncomfortable throughout the book but that's what's sometimes necessary to feel an extent of how uncomfortable, common, and horrible a problem really is. I also really liked how it viewed the effects of rape culture from multiple points of views and suggested ways to dismantle this toxic culture.
A trigger warning since this book obviously goes intk detail about multiple cases of sexual assault and harrassment.
Overall a wonderful book and it shoukd be read by everyone as it carries such an important message! -
Excellent book! Read it now and give a copy to every young man and woman you love.
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This book was nothing phenomenal. It talked about rape culture in a very detached way and didn't go very deep. I didn't learn anything new other than a few more horror stories from the news. I wanted to be changed and inspired by this book, and it was just meh.
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Chapter 1:
"Americans say that rape is bad as murder, and yet only 3 percent of rapists will ever serve time."
"Americans say that rapists are evil people, and yet in case after case, people step forward to blame victims for the crimes committed."
"One in five women and one in seventy-one men will be raped in their lifetime."
"The frequency of violence against gender-nonconforming people is even higher. . . more than half of gender non-conforming people will be sexually assaulted during their lifetime."
"The problem that has no name-which is simply the fact that American women are kept from growing to their full human capacities-is taking a far greater toll on the physical and mental health of our country than any known disease."
"A rape culture condones physical and emotional terrorism against women and presents it as the norm."
"Rape culture hurts everyone, including men. Not just because some men are victims of assault but also because the rape-culture expectations of male behavior are narrow, restrictive, and damaging to emotional and mental health."
Chapter 2:
". . .Intersectionality to describe how gender discrimination and racial discrimination overlap and interact. She describes intersectionality as "a way of thinking about identity and its relationship to power."
"Intersectional feminism acknowledges that gender equality can't exist unless other imbalances of power are also dismantled."
"American Indian women are sexually assaulted more than twice as often as white women."
"People with disabilities are sexually assaulted at more than three times the rate. . . Gay Men and bisexual people are assaulted more than twice as often as lesbians and heterosexual people."
Chapter 3:
"At one elementary school, boys were playing a game they called Trump Tag. The game involved chasing girls and grabbing them between the legs. At a middle school, boys had declared the second day of the school week to be Grab Tits Tuesday" (In response to Trump say grab them by the pussy)
"The argument that 'boys will be boys' actually carried the profoundly anti-male implication that we should expect bad behavior from boys and men. The assumption is that they are somehow not capable of acting appropriately, or treating girls and women with respect."
". . .when a boy teases or torments her, it means 'he likes her'. Equating aggression to affection teaches young people that violence and love go together."
"It is not only acts of harassment that harm girls. It is the exception that they resist them."
"How can we hope to stop violent sexual behavior if violence and sexuality are still considered the primary virtues of manhood."
Chapter 4:
"Portraying a woman's body and sexuality as merchandise, as entertainment, is more than disrespectful. it's dangerous, because it becomes much easier to demand, even force, a woman to give her body once she's been transformed from a person into property."
". . .Female students received dress code violations on the basis that what they were wearing was distracting to boys, it taught male students that it is acceptable to misbehave and disrespect women if their skin is showing, and it taught female students that making sure male students had a distraction-free learning environment is more important than her own education."
"Girls are depicted as flowers whose beauty is valued and whose purity needs to be guarded at all costs. Boys are presented as sexually voracious animals who can't be expected to control their "natural" urges. In a rape culture, sex becomes a battlefield. On one side is the army of masculinity driven by unruly hormones. The army's goal is to break through a girl's defenses and take the prize-sex. On the other side is the army of girls and women. They are supposed to be gatekeepers, keeping the army of boys at bay."
"Women are rarely taught how to say yes to sex, or how to act out their desires. Rather, we are told that the rules of sexual engagement involving men pushing and women putting on the breaks."
Chapter 5:
". . .the actual rate of false reports of sexual assault in the United States is between 2 and 8 percent."
"Out of one hundred women who say they've been raped, almost every single one is telling the truth."
"Seven out of ten of them know their victims."
Chapter 6:
"Rape becomes something that happens to women, not something that men do."
". . .' a man rapes a woman'-reminds readers that a perpetrator committed an illegal act. The passive voice-'a woman was raped'-erases the rapist and creates a false illusion of a perpetrator-free crime."
". . .Focusing on how difficult it is for the perpetrator to listen to the victim impact statements or how negatively the perpetrator's life will be affected by jail time erases the fact that his experience will never be as traumatic as that of the victim."
Chapter 7:
"Men, women are allowed to leave you. You are not entitled to a girlfriend. Media, stop romanticizing controlling, stalker behavior."
"This is what happens when you feel entitled to women. You end up being self-obsessed 34-year-old embarrassing himself in the middle of a fucking park."
"Women are not your property. You are not entitled to our company. We do not exist to make you better, happier, or more complete. Our autonomous decisions are not a reflection on your manhood."
"How are teens supposed to learn how to have conversations about sexual consent? Porn doesn't model consent. Pop culture media rarely shows partners actively seeking and giving consent. Abstinence-only education focuses on no, not yes. And most parents are so uncomfortable with the idea of their teens might be sexually active that they don't offer guidance for how to navigate consent."
Chapter 8:
"We are . . .daughters, wives, mothers, sisters, and human beings. We come in peace, but we mean business. . .Just as we have the power to shape culture, we also have the power to undo a culture that does not serve us well." -
I really I read this all in one day but it took me about three months to process it and to finally write this review. I just didn't know what to say about it. It's heartbreaking, in places it made me want to throw up, and I also think it's incredibly important to read. Our society is so broken and we're fed so many misconceptions about rape and rapists and victims.
I suppose the biggest take away should be obvious, and it's something I believed beforehand, but this reiterates it numerous times with info to back it up in various ways, it's that it is not the victim's fault. The fact that our justice system often seems to think more about the damage a harsh sentence would give to the future of someone who is otherwise a "great guy" (you know, besides the fact they can be a monster for a few minutes) than the damage that is already done to the victim and the lifelong effects it will have on them is maddening.
Second is, if someone confides in you, believe them. If they go forward with pressing charges, do you really think anyone would really want all the negative attention which goes with that if it wasn't true? And instead of judging them, admire them for their strength and courage, their willingness to relive those horrible moments to bring someone to justice. In bringing someone to justice they may be directly preventing more rapes, if that person is a serial rapist, or their story may inspire others to come forward or at least cause those around them to be more aware of their own safety.
Lastly I'll just say, for anyone who needs it and isn't aware, there is a 24-hour National Sexual Assault Hotline, it's 1-800-656-HOPE and there are also resources at
www.rainn.org. Perhaps one of the most awesome things the book shares that the aforementioned phone number can help provide is a victim's advocate, someone who is trained to be with you through the questioning, exams, and paperwork. Goodness, otherwise that would be such a scary time...especially if those who should believe you seem to doubt.
I feel like this is a very inadequate review...I know it will be hard but just read the book. -
This slim book is a mere highlight about what women face against sexual molesters on a daily basis. But it covers a lot of ground. Any American woman who’s ever had some man on the subway make increasingly loud and aggressive moves towards her; walked to her car in a dark parking lot after hours; tried to make it home from a bar, movie house or even work in the early hours; been hit on by an annoying coworker, persistent boss; raped by a relative, ex-partner, date, etc., knows what horrors can be perpetrated on the female form.
The anxiety that women live with daily is something most men can’t begin to grasp. Even though more women than ever are speaking up about their unpleasant, hostile or terrifying experiences at the hands of sexual predators, much remains to be done. This book touches on many aspects of a women’s experience and what can be done to make matters better. It dismantles myths about rape, examines the parameters about what we call “rape culture” and specifically names people involved in the debates and victims who have come forth about their experiences.
This can be upsetting for many people, male or female. But it’s a properly rendered timely book for a timeless problem. -
No more excuses is a well rounded book about rape culture. But I'm sorry to say that even putting all of those experiences in one book and naming women who fight change it on a world wide scale, does absolutely nothing for the persons living it. Women and minorities are still being sexually harassed, assaulted and raped. Nothing has changed. What good does it do to write a book but when it is not the leaders that need to change their opinions but the average citizen. It is still a joke when he says "a woman's place is in the kitchen". It is still okay when your husband calls you a "slut" as long as he does it playfully. Not that it hurts you any less but he just doesn't care. It's a joke. And it's okay because if you try to tell him how bad it hurts you, he gets defensive and angry. The book is good, but its not women who need to read it. Although, women should read it and give up on "slut" shaming. Or worse always blaming the woman when their man is unfaithful. And a thousand other things that women choose to do to each other. If the book teaches nothing else, it teaches that men aren't the enemy, everyone is.
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From Follett: Soon after the sexual misconduct allegations against film producer Harvey Weinstein became public in late 2017, the #MeToo movement went viral, opening up an explosive conversation about rape culture around the globe. In the US, someone is sexually assaulted every 98 seconds. More than 320,000 Americans over the age of twelve are sexually assaulted each year. Men are victims too. One in thirty-three American men will be sexually assaulted or raped in his lifetime. Yet only 3 percent of rapists ever serve time in jail. Learn about the patriarchal constructs that support rape culture and how to dismantle them: redefining healthy manhood and sexuality, believing victims, improving social and legal systems and workplace environments, evaluating media with a critical eye, and standing up to speak out. Case studies provide a well-rounded view of real people on all sides of the issues.
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I think this should be required reading for all high school students and possibly all adults too. This book made my heart beat fast and made me want to punch things it was so upsetting. PLEASE read it. It matters. Make your high school kids read it. Talk about it. Make sure your sons, nephews, etc understand how they can help END rape culture. Help your daughters understand that sexual violence against women is NOT the fault of the woman. EVER. Help your sons understand that sexual violence against them is not their fault. EVER. Help them see how pervasive and prevalent victim blaming is. STOP victim blaming. It doesn't matter what she wore, how much she drank, what she said, who she is dating - there is no excuse EVER for touching a woman without her consent. Can I say again that everyone should read this? Thank you.
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This was a difficult but powerful book to read. On the one hand, I think it's a very important topic. On the other, I find it odd that most of the people being praised as being forward thinking are all liberal while the narrow-minded, ignorant people are all conservative. For example, some of the people mentioned include Lindy West (cofounder of #ShoutYourAbortion), Joe Biden, Barack Obama, and bell hooks. Conservative people profiled include Donald Trump, Doug Henry, and Betsy deVos. I can wrap my head around some of these choices better than others. To me, this book had lots of good points but also screamed "Liberals good! Conservatives bad!" and I'm not sure how I feel about that.
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This book is excellent, well organized and illustrated, perfect considering the target audience and I highly recommend it.
Thoughtful and thought-provoking, this should be required reading for any teen, ESPECIALLY BOYS.
Our society let's way too many sexually charged moments of interaction go by without bystanders realizing what happened. People need to know and acknowledge the real dangers of quick escalation, leading to abuse and rape, which are still so often treated as cavalier misdeeds rather than the horrible crimes they are. -
I think this provides an excellent, "simplified" explanation of rape culture and a handful of the horrifying aspects of bias, perspectives, and cases most people- at the very least- should be aware of. I say simplified because the writing/subjects are pretty to-the-point and made easy to understand for younger readers. While I personally didn't glean any new information or perspectives, I'm sure this would act as a great tool for younger generations or those only beginning to scratch the surface of such a subject.
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I was glad to get a chance to see this book in physical form. I had a hard time with the ebook for some reason, but the physical book was exactly what I was hoping for. It would be a great read for teens interested in the topic and mature enough to handle it. (If they are mature enough to have sex, they are mature enough to read this book). I will for sure be adding it to my high school library's collection.
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A truly enlightening and informative read. It's really scary that we even need a book like this, but also incredibly empowering to be proactive and work to learn how to protect myself and my friends and what I can do to help dismantle the terrifying power imbalance of rape culture. Good information for men and women alike. Definitely read!
