| Title | : | Its OK That Youre Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesnt Understand |
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| ISBN | : | 1622039076 |
| ISBN-10 | : | 978-1622039074 |
| Language | : | English |
| Format Type | : | and 1 more , Kindle Edition, Paperback, Audio CD |
| Number of Pages | : | 280 pages |
| Publication | : | Sounds True, Inc. |
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When a painful loss or life shattering event upends your world, here is the first thing to know: there is nothing wrong with grief. "Grief is simply love in its most wild and painful form," says Megan Devine. "It is a natural and sane response to loss."
So, why does our culture treat grief like a disease to be cured as quickly as possible?
In It’s OK That You’re Not OK, Megan Devine offers a profound new approach to both the experience of grief and the way we try to help others who have endured tragedy. Having experienced grief from both sides―as both a therapist and as a woman who witnessed the accidental drowning of her beloved partner―Megan writes with deep insight about the unspoken truths of loss, love, and healing. She debunks the culturally prescribed goal of returning to a normal, "happy" life, replacing it with a far healthier middle path, one that invites us to build a life alongside grief rather than seeking to overcome it. In this compelling and heartful book, you’ll learn:
• Why well meaning advice, therapy, and spiritual wisdom so often end up making it harder for people in grief
• How challenging the myths of grief―doing away with stages, timetables, and unrealistic ideals about how grief should unfold―allows us to accept grief as a mystery to be honored instead of a problem to solve
• Practical guidance for managing stress, improving sleep, and decreasing anxiety without trying to "fix" your pain
• How to help the people you love―with essays to teach us the best skills, checklists, and suggestions for supporting and comforting others through the grieving process
Many people who have suffered a loss feel judged, dismissed, and misunderstood by a culture that wants to "solve" grief. Megan writes, "Grief no needs a solution than love needs a solution." Through stories, research, life tips, and creative and mindfulness based practices, she offers a unique guide through an experience we all must face―in our personal lives, in the lives of those we love, and in the wider world.
It’s OK That You’re Not OK is a book for grieving people, those who love them, and all those seeking to love themselves―and each other―better.
Its OK That Youre Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesnt Understand Reviews
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I was not in the mind set to read when my husband died. I began reading this book, slowly and found this truly helped with the reality of grief. Other books didn’t seem to understand the depth of my grief and my people really didn’t understand what I was going through. It
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Brilliantly written. Clear, emotionally poignant. I bough this hoping it would help my 92 year old dad who is despondent after losing my mom. So many “aha” moments. It’s helped me be supportive and allow him to grieve in his own way.
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This book was a great read, not as someone grieving, but as a family member wanting to be there for their loved ones. It helped me better understand what I could do to support them, as well as how to avoid saying and doing things that could actually be hurtful. Everyone
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This book tells it like it is, how we handle grief in our culture. How we blame the grieving person. How we as a society have no clue how to deal with grief. Reading this book made me feel better and not so alone as a grieving person. I walked away from the blamers and the
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Easy read, clear info, comment sense approach to caring
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After the loss of my 33 year old brother to cancer, our worlds were shattered. This book helped me in so many ways. It’s honest and realistic to how people actually feel when they’ve experienced an “out of order” death. It’s like you’ve fallen off track and you don’t know
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my bible after my husband died suddenly and unexpectedly. She understands because she has been there. Everyone should be required to read this book in school!
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Thank you so much to the author, Megan Devine, for this book and your words everywhere else that you have spoken. You are a lifesaver for those of us who are in heavy, traumatic grief from an out of order nightmare type of death.
