She Comes First: The Thinking Mans Guide to Pleasuring a Woman : Kerner, Ian by Ian Kerner

She Comes First: The Thinking Mans Guide to Pleasuring a Woman : Kerner, Ian Reviews

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  Anon

  I read this book, as a woman, because my partner wondered why I never orgasmed through oral sex. It had happened once or twice during my first sexual experiences as a teenager and then stopped. Thankfully, I have no problems climaxing through regular sex and am blessed with regular multiple Os so there really was no problem, but I was curious. So I read the book, my partner, as a typical man, did not. A lot made sense to me and so I found myself giving suggestions to him from what I read, in particular the biology. I don't think many men (and women) realise how extensive an organ the clitoris is and that it all benefits from attention. Cutting to the chase, I was able to receive my first oral sex orgasm in 30 years. I must have been grinning like a madwoman from ear to ear for at least a week after. And it continues to happen. There is no question that it is all down to this book. Many, many thanks to the author.
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  Mr. Is Campling

  I thought this book was good for beginners in the art or those that knew they were lacking. Personally I already do a lot of the stuff they say in here and have had praise from multiple partners so who am I to argue.My main issue with this book is the military precision involved. My long term partner would soon become aware of the patterns and would ultimately become bored of the predictability but if your thing is multiple short term partners then by all means keep doing it they'll be grateful and never know you learnt it from a book. My take on this book is to look for things you can do if you don't already do them but vary it! Five long licks in a certain area followed by five short licks in another area will soon become predictable. The main points I took from this book are the pauses where you lay your tongue on her vulva and just keep still. Also the areas around the clitoris that I never knew about and I also never knew that you weren't supposed to dive straight in for the head from the start. So, lots of good advice but just add bits of these to your armoury and vary what you do, every time! Sometimes long and slow and other times just go for the quick orgasm, she'll love the variation. So on the whole a good book for beginners and a decent reminder to those who think they know it all. As to role play, please don't
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  Jane D'Oe

  There is a lot of stuff at the beginning explaining why it's important that she comes first. If you bought this book, you already know that. The instructions are simple, practical and 'hit the target'. Simple tips that make a huge difference. Easy to read. Practical.Downside it's a bit too mechanical in the approach. But take it as a suggestion and improvise for lots of fun.
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  Infinite Dreams

  This book was OK. Definitely there were some useful insights, and I'll keep hold of it to refer to on occasion if I need to sharpen up my tongue technique! It seemed to me that the key information in this book could have been condensed into a much shorter book. Possibly such a short guide would not have justified writing a full book, who knows.Also, there were some sections of the book where the author compares cunnilingus techniques to art or music or quotes literature. These 'artistic flourishes' were completely over my head and lost on me. They didn't bring any clarity to the table whatsoever (I am very much your average bloke in the street after all!)It took me about 4 hours to read the book. After finishing it I did wonder if I would have been better off watching a selection of the many freely available adult videos on the internet these days to actually see 'best practice techniques' in action rather than just reading about them. A bit like you might watch a video on Youtube to see how to carry out a DIY job at home, it just makes things clearer doesn't it! And its free 😂.A useful book, but not the holy grail in my humble opinion.
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  goodreads Customer

  I got this book hoping my partner would be open to reading it, but before giving it to him, I read it for myself. Because I had SERIOUS doubts that a man could know the woman body. Especially intimately and sexually! 😂So, I read it and I have to say I learned things from Kerner about my OWN BODY that I didn’t even know! He really knows his stuff, and he has obviously done his homework. 😉A special note to women who have partners who could get by with a little less pride and ego My partner wasn’t excited at all to get the book. Actually, he was pissed. I had been tried to drop sex hints and to let him know what I did or didn’t like countless times in countless (thought in subtle and less direct) ways. I bring this up because any woman wanting to give this to her man needs to be aware that she could be opening one ugly can of worms. Knowing my partner, I knew deep down that he would react this way because he likes to believe he’s amazing at everything and never go questioned (he’s now my ex). However, I chose to ignore that knowing that tried to arise. So, heed your intuition as to how you should go about getting this book. And if you discover that getting it would cause an explosive situation between you and your partner, then either you’re overdue in (1) leaving him, or (2) giving yourself permission to have needs and to have them met. Good luck ladies and gents!